As Anthony and I prepare to add our sixth child to our family, it has been a journey marked with highs and lows.
For many it seems like we’re going just a wee bit too far this time. We get the usual, “Don’t you have enough kids?” question all the time. From some, we have had nothing but support. From others…absolutely nothing. And that really is okay–after all, this is our journey and we don’t expect everyone to understand it.
Truthfully, while I am learning to toughen up and roll with the punches, there are times when it all gets me down a little. It just hurts.
What this journey has certainly done for me is get me thinking a lot more about children, about adoption, about family, and about what God’s heart is in the whole thing.
I am realizing more and more that children are serious business with the Lord.
The Bible is filled with scripture on all these things and I have been pondering them a lot recently. As I ponder, questions come to mind that I have been seeking God on.
God says, “Be fruitful and multiply”. But how do you know when you’re done with having children naturally?
There are many instances in the Bible where the Lord opened and closed women’s wombs. Does that still apply to today? Or, is it just fine to take family planning into our own hands? Do we have a right to tell God how many children we want/desire if we are completely surrendered to Him?
Does complete surrender to the will of God mean we can ‘control’ the size of our families? Or, does it mean God controls it?
Is trusting God with your womb and the size of your family Old Testament stuff–not relevant for today?
What about adoption? Are we ALL called to adopt? Or not?
Is adoption only for those who feel they can ‘handle’ more children?
Does God call us to either have our children naturally, or both (meaning adoption too)?
What IS the role of the Church when it comes to caring for orphans? The Word says to care for them–but how? How should that look?
There is so much going on in my heart about these things. Some questions remain unanswered, while others I feel I am clearer on. By no means do I feel like I have arrived when it comes to understanding the heart of God on important issues like these. But, like many of you, I am really seeking. I don’t want to miss Him.
I do know these are tough questions. But I WANT to know the answers to tough questions. I NEED to know. I’m just like that.
One thing I am sure of is this–in a society where children are increasingly considered a hindrance, a nuisance, hard work, too expensive, too time consuming–God is calling His people to see them as something different! God is calling His Church to see children as He sees them…blessings, NOT curses!
What are your thoughts? What are the convictions of your hearts regarding any of the above? Do you have any scripture to share?
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Would you mind sharing them with me? I am all for iron sharpening iron and the Body of Christ sharing their knowledge and journey’s with each other–in the hope that we can all learn from each other. I only ask that all comments be posted in a spirit of love. That all opinions be shared in love. Okay?
How has the Lord spoken to your heart about any of the above?