Haven’s transition into our family has been nothing short of miraculous. She has adjusted so wonderfully, as have our other kids. All except one, that is. During our post placement report last week the Social Worker asked us what the hardest thing has been in bringing Haven home. “Cade”, we both said. You see, our little guy is really struggling. We have no doubt that he loves his new sister, this is just hard for him. He is so accustomed to being the baby of the family. Now, he has a little competition. Even though Haven is double his age, she is sooooo much younger developmentally. She is just like a very young toddler. How has Cade handled this? He has become JUST like her, he has taken on ALL of Haven’s mannerisms. Some days he can go through most of the day without saying a single word—just making babbling baby sounds like she does. He walks around the house acting just like Haven. Most days we deal with two non-verbal children around here.
Tonight we were sitting at the dinner table, Cade looked at Anthony and I and said “why is Haven staying here such a long time?” Yes, we all cracked up laughing. I guess somewhere deep down he loves his new sister—but most of the time he probably wonders when she will be heading back to China 🙂 Oh, the joys.
We do know that Cade will eventually grow weary of being like Haven, like everything else, it is just going to take time. We take things one day at a time around here—I guess that is exactly the way the Lord wants it.